You must not want it Enough

If you have ever had a dream or goal...

Then I am sure you have heard it said before--"You must not want it enough, because if you did then you would (fill in the blank). That fill in the blank could be anything from give up time with friends, work more hours, eat less food, study more often, whatever it may be, in order to reach your goal. 

I feel like this can be such a dangerous way of thinking. I mean are you really willing to sacrifice whatever it takes to make your dreams come true? And after you achieve them, will you look back and still think it was worth it?

Your answer to those questions may be different than mine, but for me the answer is a resounding NO. There are things in my life too important to me to give up for "success". I put success in quotations, because what is the point of reaching the top if it costs you everything to get there. I am not willing to lose my friends and family, sanity and stress level, vacation and fun, or Jesus time all for the sake of a job/blog/perfect body/house/car or whatever it may be.

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I think our society has it's priorities all wrong. I want my main focus to be to love God, love others, and love myself. I want to be kind to myself--even when I might not meet my own expectations. Perfection is unattainable (I know I talk about this topic a lot), so give yourself a break. 

I once heard that you would never tell a 5 year old version of yourself that she is ugly or not good enough, that she doesn't have what it takes. So why in the heck are you letting those lies impede your thoughts about your current self? Be kind to yourself, let things slide sometimes, and learn to be in the moment.

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And just as important--loving the ones around you. Take the time to stop at a sick friends house with soup--even if you have a million things on your plate. Send a simple text just to let someone know you are thinking and praying for them. When you have a blog post to write and your hubby (who works like 80 hrs a week) has down time and wants to cuddle in front of the t.v.--do it! (OK, that advice may have been directed at myself ha!)

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Forget the lie that you must not want it enough. I am all for putting your heart into a goal, but also give yourself a break! If you are doing your best, that is really all that matter (an oldie, but goodie). Sometimes, you can want something with all your heart and it is still OK not to sacrifice something else in order to obtain it. It doesn't mean that it is less important or your somehow a failure. It just means that maybe you have to find a more creative way to carve out time to blog, or working out, or cooking dinners for your family. BALANCE is the key. I truly believe God has a plan for everyone and we can stop striving so hard to make things happen, because God is in control. If it is His will for it to happen, it will--without any help from us :) So drop control, guilt, and stress, and go out and have a fabulous weekend doing whatever feeds your soul!

Thanks for listening to my ramblings :)
oxox,